A lot difference be in existence between making love and having sex. Many people be under a delusion of making love with their partner when to tell the truth you are just having sex. Or you may just not be certain if what you are experiencing is having sex or making love. Once in a while, the line can get a little blurry.
So what exactly is the difference between making love and having sex?
1. Different Motives
When you're having sex, your direct motivation is to get off. At the end of the day, you want to have an orgasm.
When making love, it's not that getting off isn't important, but the ultimaten motivation is to connect on an emotional level with your partner. Making love means you take pleasure in exploring your partner's body and mind and heart, not just because you are trying to have an orgasm, but owing to the fact that you are trying to share a seriously intimate connection with them.
Making love might take hours, and you may even decide the orgasm wasn't your goal. It's all about deepening your connection and growing your love.
2. Communication Is Different
Even if you aren't a fan of sexy talk, the communication during sex is often for the most part about who is virtual to have an orgasm, when, how hard, etc.
When you're making love, it is more that it is held up by loving, emotional words. Making love often gives couples the ability to be very open with each other, and gives them the perfect space for talking about how much they love each other.
3. Different Personalities
Sometimes, when we're having sex, it's easy to turn into someone else. Once in a while, this is intentional, like through role-playing or rough play, but other times, it's just because our inhibitions are down.
In lovemaking, there is no one to be but yourself. In fact, for making love to work between you and your partner the way it's sort of supposed to, you have to be 100 percent, completely yourself. You have to be the most yourself you've ever been. There's no room for anyone else.
4. Vulnerability Is Different
In sex, even if we're sometimes open to trying new things, we're not normally open to much more than just finishing and feeling good.
With making love, however, this is completely different. Couples making love are oftentimes extremely emotionally vulnerable to the point that tears may flow. This actually makes a lot of sense, because if the motivation (see point one) for making love is to connect, there's no better way to do that than being intentionally vulnerable.
Sometimes, after lovemaking, one person or both in the couple might need a few extra words of safety or a bit of extra love. This is absolutely normal and is a product of the emotional vulnerability that comes with making love.
5. Presence Is Different
Sometimes, when we’re having sex, our minds wander. However, when it comes to making love, it is completely the opposite. When you and your partner are making love, you are entirely present at every single moment.
Making love with someone you know is your soulmate won't make you want to be anywhere else seeing that you'll feel perfect just where you are.
Making love is a genuinely unique, wonderful experience and not one that comes with every single relationship. Making love is in fact reserved for those special relationships with the one you know you will be with eternally and whom you can't get enough of.
By Sowmya Sangam
