Though some men may think of foreplay as a vexing obligation rather than something to be enjoyed, any woman will tell you it's just as integral to a well-rounded sexual experience as the act itself.
Paying little or no attention to put in the quality time before intercourse is only going to lead to frustration. If you want to give her an overwhelmingly impressive orgasm, nailing your foreplay routine is crucial.
Both men and women love it. Coz, before any strenuous physical activity, it's important to be properly warmed up!
As Lori Buckley, Ph.D., and a sex therapist in Pasadena, California points out, "When you touch each other in a familiar way every time, your body becomes desensitized and it won't feel as arousing."
If you're having trouble getting things started, here are some unexplored areas and moves that you can work into your sex repertoire:
The Scalp
Pailet also points out that the scalp has a ton of nerve endings and should definitely be on your list of sensitive spots. She suggests running your hands through their hair or lightly grabbing their hair at the nape of their neck.
The Earlobes
Ear and earlobes are the most sensitive areas for many people, according to an expert. Xanet Pailet, the author of Living an Orgasmic Life, says: "Nibbling on the earlobes, licking behind their ear, and blowing gently in someone's ear, or telling them sexy things can be a huge turn-on." She even adds that there are some women that can have eargasms just from this sort of stimulation.
Back of the Neck
Pailet says lightly tickling at the back of the neck and shoulders can prove extra sensitive. Some light nibbles or love bites can also help ramp up arousal.
Hands
Dr. Susan Kaye, Ph.D., and sexologist in Texas says that your hands are also a very important body part to focus on during foreplay. "Our hands have the same amount of nerve endings as our genitals," she adds.
Buccal Nerve
The buccal nerve, the ultra-sensitive border around the lips, has untapped potential to stimulate when you're kissing. "This area is extremely sensitive to touch, but it’s often overlooked since most people focus on the plump part of the lips," says clinical sexologist Rachael Ross, MD, Ph.D. If you try lightly tracing the tip of your finger around the edges of your mouth (like you’re putting on lip liner), you’ll experience a tingly, almost ticklish feeling.
Sides of Torso
Snaking from the bottom of the rib cage to the hips is a powerful nerve that, when stimulated, connects directly to your clitoris and your partner's penis. "When you touch this area, it reflexively causes the pelvic-floor muscles to contract in both men and women, which increases arousal," says Dr. Ross.
You’ll want to use a firmer touch here since it’s more ticklish than other spots. Start on one side, just underneath the rib cage, and either stroke the area with your hand or alternate between kissing (apply more pressure than usual with your lips) and lightly nibbling your way down to the hipbone.
The Mound on the Lower Back
The knob at the base of the spine is rife with nerves and therefore arousal potential. To take advantage, give each other a massage.
Start at the shoulder blades, and work for your hands down in a kneading motion. At the lower back, switch to a softer touch, and lightly spiral your fingers over the base. "This area is so receptive, just the softest touch will send chills throughout the body," says Dr. Ross.
You can also lightly graze your cheek against the area - the unexpected skin on skin sparks an increase in the excitement hormone dopamine. Then softly kiss and trace your tongue along with the same spot. Try brushing the tips of your hair against the skin and then switch to raking your fingernails gently across it to deepen the sensation.
The Pubic Bone
According to Genevieve Duarte, a tantric massage expert at White Lotus East in New York City, the start to a truly arousing tantric massage lies with stimulating the surrounding areas of your partner's body before going straight for the genitals and orgasm. Gently massaging the pubic bone can unlock lots of erotic potentials. If you're ready to work in more erogenous zone stimulation, you can go for lightly massaging the perineum with a couple of fingers.
The Trail on the Thighs
One of the most explosive nerves in the body is located at the top of the inner thigh. "It’s called the ilioinguinal nerve, and it’s incredibly sensitive to touch," says Dr. Millheiser.
In fact, it’s best to save it for last and work your way up to it. Start by licking your finger and slowly drawing it from the mid–inner thigh to the top. Then follow the path you just traced with your tongue, teasing your way to the upper region.
"Because the skin here is tender, it’s important to watch how he reacts," says Buckley. "If he flinches, you’re exciting the nerve to the point where it feels too ticklish."
"Caressing this area indirectly stimulates the genitals since the nerves around it are firing pleasure signals to the brain," says Dr. Ross.
The Sexy Dip Where Neck Meets Chest
The entire area between your jawline and shoulders is an erogenous zone, but there’s one particular destination that will spark more goosebumps than any other part. "It’s that little indentation where the neck connects with the collarbone," says Leah Millheiser, MD, director of female sexual medicine at Stanford Medical Center. "The skin is thinner there, and there’s not as much fatty tissue underneath, so the sensations are stronger." In other words, touching this area feels damn good.
So as you kiss down his neck, trail the tips of your index and middle fingers from one shoulder to the dip in the center, lingering to swirl your fingers in slow, circular motion. Then move your mouth over the spot and kiss it, using your breath to warm the area.
"The combination of the heat and touch relaxes the body, turning you on," says Buckley. "Plus, when your guy touches you here, your entire chest becomes more sensitive, including your breasts, which increases your pleasure."